Whatever you are feeling….

Whatever you are feeling know it’s okay to feel that way.

No matter what people say, your feelings are your own. Nobody can feel them quite like you do.

Sometimes people don’t understand these feelings. But, what matters is that we understand these feelings and learn how to deal with them. 

Holy crap guys! The morning I had…

Literally, I just want to restate the title, holy crap guys, the fricking morning I had…. was full with anxiety, and feelings of scared, worried,irritation the works.

I’m a lot better now, but my anxiety made my morning so much worse than it had to be. My chest hurt, I was nauseous right from 7 this morning to like 1130. I had to attend a legal thing that I had never been part of before. So I was terrified because I had no idea what to do, what to say, where to go. 

Terrified that the other party would tear me to shreads, which thankfully he didn’t. He turned about to be a nice and understanding guy.

It did work out in the end, and I am satisfied with the outcome. I am stronger from that, but this anxiety is really intense.

Anxiety Inducing situations.

I’ve got a big one coming up tomorrow, and am absolutely terrified.

I am constantly put in situations that even though they help me grow, they produce so much anxiety prior to the event. I feel pressure on my chest, and a feeling of dread was over me.

I’m prepared to do the best that I can, and hopefully be prepared enough to get my point across.

I’ve researched, gotten all of my papers together, but I’m still scared because this is a completely new experience for me, and one that has legal ramifications on top of that.

I hope I can do this.

 

Lifestyle choice #1

If you are currently questioning keeping a toxic or unhealthy person in your life or not, I’ve got some tips.

Tip 1: Communication is key! A lot of those conversations have probably already happen ( arguments about ditching of plans constantly one sided, or arguments where you have tried to explain how you feel and it just doesn’t go anywhere).

Being blunt isn’t the worst idea. You can still be blunt and nice at the same time.

If you are dealing with someone who isn’t acknowledging their problem or isn’t willing to do anything to fix their problem, it is quite acceptable to cut ties. Yes even with a family member. You see, you can’t fix people. They need to have the motivation to change. You can’t give them that.

No matter what you do or say or try, if this person doesn’t want to change, THEY WONT! Don’t try to change this person. Don’t think ” If I behave or go the extra mile for this person, that’ll work, they’ll change. But then a few years or however long after it’s back to the same unhealthy, toxic loop.

Tip 2: I’m all for helping other people out, but don’t let this person or this persons life engulf you. You shouldn’t be spending all of your time thinking about this other person (“What will they do if I say/do this?”)

Tip 3: Listen, this isn’t going to be easy. Yes, it’s going to hurt, and totally suck. They may totally hate you and spread hateful shit about you to your friends and family. But you know what? You are the bigger person. You took the high road and made the mature decision to end a relationship that wasn’t ok with you. I also hope on that high road, you stay far away from social media when you are emotional.

Tip 4: Don’t stoop down to their level. Those stupid statuses on Facebook they write, bitching about how horrible you are?….. Just Block. I always found that after I blocked someone on Facebook, I tend to forget about them. I also try to think that blocking them is a permanent option. That way, at first glance, there isn’t any other option than to leave them currently blocked.

Tip 5: If you are going to trash talk, keep it offline and to only a select few. First of all, no one on Facebook needs to know about these dirty details. Second of all, the other person if they are petty will already be spreading their own shit. The people who know you well enough will know the truth. It’s perfectly ok to rant and rave about this person, but don’t let that be the constant reaction.

Tip 6: You may lose other people in the process. Sometimes, people who aren’t involved in the immediate situation will pick sides. Some people will put their “shields” up and deny any mature decision you make, likely because they are afraid of what could happen from you making that decision solo. You will find out who is meant to be in your life and people who you are better off without.

Tip 7: Even though you broke off the relationship, it is still perfectly ok to grieve the loss of it. There was some part of you invest in that relationship, some more than others. That part needs to heal and deal with the loss.

Tip 8:Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel. Don’t let anyone tell you, you should be over it by now, or it shouldn’t have been a big deal. If you feel the only way you can talk to this other person about these feelings is through the internet, you go ahead. Don’t be ashamed to take the faceless route. These things can be hard.

Tip 9: After all of this, what matters is how you deal with it. You can dwell on it, and let it consume your life or you can grieve the loss and move on.

I hope this helps! If you have any questions email me at dmagoffin34253465@gmail.com, I’m willing to try to help in any way. 🙂

The whole idea of my blog.

This is where I can be uncensored and honest. I’m fueled by my emotions, so I may make overreaction posts, but that’s just my knee jerk reaction.

That’s one of my rules here, is no matter what be honest. And if you don’t agree and have an opinion yourself, please do share. But debate the rights and wrongs with me, don’t nitpick what I’m saying.

Everyone is going to view what I say differently. If you are offended by something I say, I’m sorry but this is my platform to be BRUTALLY honest. And besides no one is forcing you to read this. If you agree, share,comment or email me with your opinions. I want to be open here, and I won’t censor myself because there are people who are offended by what I say.

Insults and Trolls

Since I’m new to this I will be getting frequent insults and trolls thrown at me. And I mean, why do they bother? If you dont  have anything else better to do, go outside, play in a puddle, go do something productive. I’m not here to be liked or agreed with ( even though, that would be super cool) I’m here to voice my opinion. My blog, my opinion.

Questions and Advice

I am full of knowledge and am completely open minded.

I want all questions, advice, rants or anything you want a second opinion on. I’ve got a perspective that is completely different than anyone else’s. And I’m dying to help people. 

So come on, leave a comment..or you can send me an email at dmagoffin34253456@gmail.com if you would like privacy. I may even post my general opinions with discretion. I won’t name names, or use any specific details. And I won’t post an opinion at all if you ask me.